Anxiety can be such so insidious. You can feel fine and then you’re hijacked by these paralysing and overwhelming feelings.
You can start to feel like you’re separating from your body, detaching from reality. A veil seems to descend between you and the world. Your mind and heart no longer feel safe and grounded.
You might even feel like you’re going to have a heart attack, pass out or die.
You develop a whole system of checks and balances nuanced to your particular flavour of control, all to avoid being triggered.
You become afraid of your anxiety returning and this creates a type of cage that you comfortably inhabit, because however restrictive, you deem it better than that anxious feeling. And this can work – it does keep things manageable – but sometimes you get stuck there and think it’s a forever thing.
But how to open the door? How to step out of the cage? (more…)
We all have trouble dealing with our emotions sometimes. Feelings that come up can have all sorts of stories attached to them. Stories we don’t like, feelings we don’t want to experience.
We hide what we feel, ignore it, feel shame and guilt about it, lie about it or blame other people for causing difficult emotions in us.
We also crave certain emotions that are considered positive: we want to grasp on to them, get addicted and attached to things, people and places which generate that emotional feeling.
This attachment to certain emotions can motivate our behaviour and make us feel out of control.
When it comes to emotions, perhaps we never really grew up. (more…)
New Year, New Resolutions.
That old chestnut.
In so many ways, the conditions are ripe for change at this time of year.
Often in January, we’ve taken a break, mixed up the routine, have satisfied our inner hedonist over Christmas and NYE in celebration over the last year and are heralding in the new.
We spent all our money, took time off, ate lots of food, drank and more. (Or was that just me??)
Afterwards we naturally feel a little austere. It’s quiet now, people are away, business can be slower, school is out. We have the space to contemplate.
We may be pumped to start our new regime and that’s great.
But why do most people, even if they make a strong resolution, tend to not follow through with how they want to change and grow? Why do humans commonly do that? Why can’t we move forward in the ways we want? Why do we find making changes such an effort, too difficult and eventually give up?